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Confidence is feeling sure that events will be favorable. Believing in yourself and your abilities. Free from doubt or fear. Inspiration. A feeling of trust in someone or something. Hopefulness without Ego or Arrogance.

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Confidence Factors Optimism is a mental attitude. A common idiom used to illustrate optimism versus pessimism is a glass with water at the halfway point, where the optimist is said to see the glass as half full and the pessimist sees the glass as half empty.

Self- Efficacy is the extent or strength of one's belief in one's own ability to complete tasks and reach goals. Seen as the ability to persist and a person's ability to succeed with a task. As an example, self-efficacy directly relates to how long someone will stick to a workout regimen or a diet. High and low self-efficacy determine whether or not someone will choose to take on a challenging task or "write it off" as impossible. Self-efficacy affects every area of human endeavor. By determining the beliefs a person holds regarding his or her power to affect situations, it strongly influences both the power a person actually has to face challenges competently and the choices a person is most likely to make. These effects are particularly apparent, and compelling, with regard to behaviors affecting health.

Resilient is able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.

Self-Esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself.

Pride has two meanings. It could mean that you have a foolish and irrational corrupt sense of one's personal value, status or accomplishments, you are over exaggerating how important you are, you have arrogance with a condescending attitude.
But pride can also mean feeling good about yourself because you know that you did your best and that you are happy with the choices and actions that you have taken. You can also feel this Pride for other people. Being proud to have known someone, or being proud of certain people because you know how important they are, and you understand how much they endured. 
It's better to explain why your achievements are important and valuable?

Self-Manage - Responsibilities


Optimism, Confidence, Self-esteem, Beliefs, Positivism or having Self-Confidence are all irrelevant. To have confidence is like having a false sense of security. Same thing for Depression or Happiness, or self doubt, which are also irrelevant and not an accurate Measurement of Reality or Awareness. The only accurate way to know if things are good, bad, wrong or right is by Measuring, not by using your feelings. Self-Confidence could also be misunderstood as Egotistic, Self-Centered or just being Full of Yourself, a dysfunctional Pride. And understanding ones Abilities is not a guarantee that your abilities will bring you Success. And just thinking things will have a favorable outcome is not always beneficial. This also applies to Courage, Bravery and being Fearless. And just trying psych yourself up is not necessarily going to make you more Aware or more capable. But you also don't want Fear to paralyze you into not taking actions. Knowing your Capabilities is better then having faith in your abilities. Knowing you are capable of many things is better then Believing that you are capable of many things. All you can say is that ' I am capable of many things and I understand my abilities, and based on my past experiences, and looking at all the data and information, I can calculate that the odds are in my favor for this particular task that I am about to perform. I know that there is no guarantee of success and that accidents do happen, but I understand the Risk and I understand that Mistakes are a part of Learning. I also know that emotions of any kind are a distraction and will only interfere with my Focus and Awareness. So in order to have any type of Confidence you first must have an accurate way of measuring your abilities. And not just by comparing your abilities to others, but by validating your testing methods accuracy and by knowing that your measurements are up to date. 

Vulnerable is being susceptible to injury, criticism or persuasion or temptation. Easily impressed emotionally. Sensitive. Likely to fail under stress or pressure. Lacking.

Ego out of Control - Fame Dangers - Conformity - Do you think that you Know Enough?

Wishful Thinking is the formation of beliefs and making decisions according to what might be pleasing to imagine instead of by appealing to evidence, rationality, or reality. It is a product of resolving conflicts between belief and desire.

Magical Thinking actions and events which seemingly cannot be justified by reason and observation.

Optimism Bias is a cognitive bias that causes a person to believe that they are less at risk of experiencing a negative event compared to others.

Overconfidence Effect bias in which a person's subjective confidence in his or her judgments is reliably greater than the objective accuracy of those judgments, especially when confidence is relatively high.

Confidence Trick

Overconfidence is when we tend to overestimate our capabilities and skills and as a result we tend to take greater risks in our daily lives. In this bias we feel convinced and confident that we are right irrespective of truth.

False Bravado is showing courage when in fact you are afraid. Tending to deceive or mislead people by pretending not be be afraid, sometimes using just your body language.

Believing the future will be favorable may prevent action. Belief in a favorable future may diminish the likelihood that people will take action to ensure that the favorable future becomes reality.

Pessimism is a mental attitude. Pessimists anticipate undesirable outcomes from a given situation which is generally referred to as situational pessimism or believes that undesirable things are going to happen to them in life more than desirable ones. Pessimists also tend to focus on the negatives of life in general or a given situation. The most common example of this phenomenon is the "Is the glass half empty or half full?" situation. In this situation a pessimist is said to see the glass as half empty while an optimist is said to see the glass as half full. Throughout history, the pessimistic disposition has had effects on all major areas of thinking.

Positive Thinking
Optimism (worry)

Emotional Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one's self-image or ego.

Superiority Complex is a psychological defense mechanism in which a person's feelings of superiority counter or conceal his or her feelings of inferiority.

Impostor Syndrome describes people who are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those exhibiting the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be. Notably, impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women, although some studies indicate that both genders may be affected in equal numbers.

Cowards die many times before their death, but define coward? And kind of situation is it? What may seem like a cowardly act, may actually be genius. Can someone just say no? Or maybe it's just saying no at the wrong time? Damned if you do, Damned if you don't. What can you do except measure what you can and try to see the whole picture. Don't use labels, clearly explain exactly what you mean, these words may be the most important words you ever speak.

Brave is being able to face danger, pain or fear even when knowing the risks and consequences.

Hero is someone who faces danger, combats adversity through impressive feats of ingenuity, bravery or strength, often sacrificing his or her own personal concerns for some greater good.

Fortitude is strength of mind that enables one to endure adversity with courage.

Courage is the mental and physical strength that enables you to face danger or pain without fear or regret.

Patriotic - Duty - Risk Taking

Bravery doesn't have to be all or nothing, you can actually plan ahead, way ahead. Incentives


Accurately Calculate Worth or Value

Does Praising someone build Confidence?

Confidence is knowing your abilities and knowing how to use your abilities effectively and correctly. It is not a state of mind.

You can't replace knowledge, information and experiences using just a few words like "You need more Confidence". People don't lack confidence, people lack knowledge, information and experiences. A person doesn't need to believe in themselves, a person needs to know themselves, and understand their abilities. To have freedom from doubt, or to trust, is dangerous.

Being Self-Conscious without Fears is just Awareness. And Confidence without a Conscience is the lacking of awareness.

Thinking Positive is good, but positive thinking alone will not increase your chances, a perfectly executed move needs skills, learning and a lot of training.  Sports Wisdom

Contentment is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction maybe drawn from being at ease in one's situation, body and mind. Colloquially speaking, contentment could be a state of having accepted one's situation and is a milder and more tentative form of happiness.

idle hands are the devil's workshop 

"Ignorance is bliss until it hits you in the face" 

"Don't get caught with your pants down, or don't get caught unprepared, or get caught doing things that you shouldn't be doing"

"Having no Fear is not without risk, you still need to be cautious, responsible and aware. Not being afraid does not excuse you from the risk or danger of reality, you still need to know your limits."   Failure

If I do Fail, then I will only learn from that Experience, and I will not let Mistakes discourage me from future Endeavors.
So what's the difference between Faith and Self-confidence
Socrates on Self-Confidence (youtube)
What are the differences between Phobias, Panic Attack and Fear?
Relaxation Techniques
Does Systematic Desensitization or Immersion Therapy help to lessen fears? 
What are the differences between Anxiety, Nervous Energy, Worrying, Insecurity and Fear?
Adventure Sayings
What is Somatic Experiencing?
What is Posttraumatic Stress Disorder?
Stress Management
What is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing?


What's the difference between Pessimism and Optimism
What's Enthusiasm
What's Envy?
What's the difference between Pleasure and Pain?

Interpersonal intelligence

Yes things will be good and yes things will be bad. But the only way things will improve in the future will be by making lasting improvements today. Just saying things will be OK is not the same thing as doing things that will make improvements so that the odds of things being better will most likely increase. Good Intentions will always be better then no real intentions at all.

The glass is neither half full nor half empty, it is what it is, a glass with a certain amount of water

Pragmatism rejects the idea that the function of thought is to describe, represent, or mirror reality. Instead, pragmatists consider thought an instrument or tool for prediction, problem solving and action.

You can't have Satisfaction, only Acceptance or Complacency. To be satisfied is like having a false sense of security. How can you be satisfied knowing there is something better? How can you be satisfied knowing that it's not an accurate measurement of reality? I'm not saying you can't enjoy life or be happy, I'm just say be cautious when feeling satisfied.
I Can't Get No Satisfaction

"It's illogical to be discouraged by the fear of Failure. Scenarios are to be Measured, they are not to be feared. Believing in failure or believing in success has no calculating factors or value, so they are useless in Decision Making, and they can also be very dangerous because they may cause you to make a wrong decision, a decision not based on reality or facts."

"Ordinary people can be capable of some extraordinary things. So you should never underestimate a persons abilities or a persons value because you never know how important that someone is until you give them a chance to explore their abilities. Incredible things happen when you least expect it, in ways that you have never imagined. There seems to be an extraordinary person in all of us, so you could say that ordinary people are just extraordinary people waiting for their chance to shine."

And you certainly don't want your confidence to turn into bragging or boasting, that would be a shame. Showing excessive pride and self-satisfaction in one's achievements, possessions, or abilities. Exhibiting self-importance.

Showing off is when someone deliberately behaves in such a way as to attract attention. Display proudly; act ostentatiously or pretentiously. Flaunting or Taunting

Pretentious is making claim to or creating an appearance of (often undeserved) importance or distinction. Intended to attract notice and impress others.

Coercing is to pressure someone, by physical, moral or intellectual means. Coercion

Don't let your insecurity get the best of you.

Don't be..
Insecure is Lacking self-confidence or assurance.
Dependent is a person who relies on another person for support. 
Gullible is being easily tricked because of being too trusting.
Don't ever assume or jump to conclusions. Asking questions and learning is a lot easier.

What you should be..
Self-confident is freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities.
Independent is free from external control and constraint.  Self-Manage
Intelligent is showing good judgment. The capacity to reason.

Love is Like a Rock - Donnie Iris (youtube)
You can't depend on your teacher.
You can't depend on your preacher.
You can't depend on politicians.
You can't depend on superstitions.
Love can rock you.
Never stop you.
Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah,
Love is like a rock.
You can't rely on Mother Nature.
You can't rely on your paychecks.
You can't depend on your doctor.
You can't depend on your lawyer.
Love can rock you.
Never stop you.
Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah,
Love is like a rock.
Love can rock you.
Never stop you.
Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah,
Love is like a rock.

"Two of the most important things to depend on is your ability to learn and your commitment to keep learning."

The Thinker Man