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Sometimes Love is not enough, some Relationships actually need more then just love. Love is just a word unless you put it into practice, and in order to put Love into practice, you need to understand what Love is.

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A man showing a women love Love is when you really like someone a lot and really care about them, so much so that they are always on your mind. And you may not like everything about that someone, but you can still love them. But you can also like a lot of things about someone, but not truly love them. So love is not always clearly visible or fully understood. So love is part discovery and part learning. You can count the things that make you happy, but that does not mean that you will have happiness. And you can count all the things that you like about someone, but that does not mean that you will have True Love for that person.

Don't blame Love for your feelings or thoughts, don't blame Love for your Broken Heart, Love does not Stink or Hurt, and don't blame Love for being Jealous, don't blame Love for not meeting your Expectations, don't blame Love for being Insecure, don't blame Love for being blind or Tainted, because love does not cause those things to happen, you cause those things to happen. So the only thing to blame is our own ignorance and our own lack of knowledge. There is lot to learn about Relationships, and there's also a lot to learn about Your-Self. So don't play the blame game, play the learning game, it's much more fun and a lot more rewarding. Now that's Love.

Love is many things. Love is part balance, harmony, equality, sharing, listening and caring, just to name a few.

Love is a Responsibility. You choose who to love, and others will choose who to love. You may become immediately attracted to someone, but this is not love, at least not yet. You may not know exactly why you care about someone all of a sudden, but you do choose to love them, or choose not to love them. If you feel that you have no choice who you choose to love, then you don't fully understand what love is. Falling in love is OK, but never confirming why you love someone is not OK.

"You can't make someone love you, but you can definitely become someone who can be loved"



Types of Love


Two Hands Making a Heart Symbol The first type of Love is Emotional Love or Romantic Love, being in Love someone. "I'm so in Love with that person, I want to know everything about that person, I want to feel and experience love as if we were one". This is not the same as Infatuation, Puppy Love, a crush, or Love Addiction, or is it love at first sight, because how could you fall in love with someone you personally don't know? You are mostly just falling in Love with a Dream. A dream that has been passed down for centuries in the way of love stories, love songs and movies. Like Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and thousands of other Love Stories in History and in Literature. This is a beautiful dream but it is clearly not Reality or even logical. It takes time to know someone, it even takes more time to Know Yourself or to Love Yourself.

"Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you." 

The goal is to love someone else without loving yourself any less, because the best part of the love that you give to someone else comes partially from the love that you give to yourself.

Love also has chemistry, like Oxytocin, Endorphins and Dopamine. But don't let the feel good high from hormones cloud your judgment.

And yes Love Hurts, especially when we lose the love of someone dear to us. Broken Heart

Interpersonal Attraction is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and to platonic or romantic relationships. Interpersonal attraction, the process, is distinct from perceptions of physical attractiveness, which involves views of what is and is not considered beautiful or attractive.

Sexual Attraction
Physical Attractiveness

Soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust.

Dating - Marriage

The Second type of Love is Appreciative Love, I love that person, their friendship is extremely important to me and I would always be ready to help that person when ever they needed me. I Listen with complete Awareness when they Speak, for I know at times that they carefully listen to me when I speak. This includes Parental Love. The love between a parent and their child can be one of the strongest kinds of love, but also one of the most complicatedAttachment Theory

When the two loves are combined, it creates a very special love, A love everyone should have. But even if you don't have emotional love, that will never stop you from loving or stop you from being loved, that is truly the value of love. Love is non Conditional, though Love flourishes in more favorable Conditions.

Love is to have a great affection or liking for someone or something. A beloved person; used as terms of endearment. A strong positive emotion of regard and affection. Get pleasure from.  Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection ("I love my mother") to pleasure ("I loved that meal"). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another". It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals.

Romantic Love is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person often associated with sexual attraction. It is eros rather than agape, philia, or storge.

Unconditional Love is known as affection without any limitations or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, or complete love. Each area of expertise has a certain way of describing unconditional love, but most will agree that it is that type of love which has no bounds and is unchanging. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships. An example of this is a parent's love for their child; no matter a test score, a life changing decision, an argument, or a strong belief, the amount of love that remains between this bond is seen as unchanging and unconditional. Unconditional love is garnered and shared by those who love themselves first.

Platonic Love is a type of love that is non-sexual. The term is named after Plato, who described a kind of love centered on same-gender relations and included sex which underwent a transformation during Renaissance (15th–16th centuries) to get its contemporary sense of asexual heterosexual love.

Agape is "love: the highest form of love, charity; the love of God for man and of man for God." Not to be confused with philia – brotherly love – agape embraces a universal, unconditional love that transcends, that serves regardless of circumstance

Brotherly Love is an extension of the natural affection associated with near kin, toward the greater community of fellow believers, that goes beyond the mere duty. To "love thy neighbor as thyself", and shows itself as "unfeigned love" from a "pure heart", that extends an unconditional hand of friendship that loves when not loved back, that gives without getting, and that ever looks for what is best in others.

Adore
is to love someone very much.
Affection is a tender and warm feeling toward someone; extreme fondness. Affection is a feeling or type of love, amounting to more than goodwill or friendship.
Admire is a feeling of delighted approval and liking. A favorable judgment. Good.
Amore is the Italian word for love.
Amour is a very serious love affair, usually a secret or discrete.
Cherish is to have great affection and caring for someone.
Passion is a strong feeling or emotion. Something that is desired intensely. An irrational but irresistible motive for a belief or action. Any object of warm affection or devotion. Passion (emotion) is a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire for something.

Obsessive Love is when a person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess another person toward whom one feels a strong attraction, with an inability to accept failure or Rejection.

Infatuation is the state of being carried away by an unreasoned passion without insight or proper evaluative judgment. Blind desire that exhibits bad judgment and misevaluation for reasons such as ignorance or recklessness', regardless of desire.

Puppy Love is an informal term for feelings of love, romance, or infatuation, often felt by young people during their childhood and adolescence. It is named for its resemblance to the adoring, worshipful affection that may be felt by a puppy. It may also be able to describe short/long-term love interest. The term can be used in a derogatory fashion, describing emotions which are shallow and transient in comparison to other forms of love such as romantic love.

Crush
is obsessive feelings that you have towards someone for No Logical Reason, which sometimes causes you to think about them more than anything else.

Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated.

Desired is wanting intensely. Addictions - Dependencies
Fixations are attachments to people or things in general persisting from childhood into adult life.
Devotion is the commitment to some purpose.
Like is to find something or someone enjoyable or agreeable. Be fond of. A feeling of pleasure and enjoyment.
Philia is a positive feeling of liking.

Rejection is dismissing or refusing of a proposal, which is not bad, except that some people who reject you express a lack of respect accompanied by a feeling of intense dislike, which can hurt. No need to be mean, it may spread.

Social Rejection occurs when an individual is deliberately excluded from a social relationship or social interaction.

Rejected is to dismiss from consideration. Refuse to accept or acknowledge. Deem something wrong or inappropriate, but the person may be Objective or Biased, but it is still a choice, and not a judgment. Stay Confident and practice Forgiveness.

Shunning can be the act of social rejection, or emotional distance. In a religious context, shunning is a formal decision by a denomination or a congregation to cease interaction with an individual or a group, and follows a particular set of rules. It differs from, but may be associated with, excommunication.

Hatred (forgiveness)

Body Image


"We shouldn't put a face on love, because love is not a face, love is everything behind the face."

"Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is."

"Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you. It takes someone really special to stay in your life and show how much they love you."

"Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind." - (Act I, Scene I).  Henry V Play 1599.

"To fall in love for superficial reasons is an insult to love. Love should be pure, otherwise that act of loving someone becomes fake and exploitive." 

Superficial is seeing only the surface. Insignificant details of little importance. Narrowness of mind.


Love Songs

My favorite Love Song is by Roberta Flack "The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face" (1969) (youtube)
Simon and Garfunkel - Bridge Over Troubled Water (youtube)
Love Songs by The Beatles - The Word
Carly Simon - That's The Way I Always Heard It Should Be - 1971 (youtube)
Judy Collins - Send In The Clowns (youtube)
Rihanna: Diamonds (SNL)  Stay
Alicia Keys - No On (youtube)
Partridge Family - I Think I Love You (youtube)
Carpenters -We've Only Just Begun (youtube)
Lady Antebellum - Just a Kiss (youtube)
We're Not Broken, Just Bent (youtube)
The Beach Boys - Wouldn't It Be Nice (youtube)
You're My Best Friend - Queen (youtube)
Righteous Brothers - Unchained Melody (youtube)
The Platters - Only You (youtube)
To Love Somebody - Bee Gees (youtube) wiki
Say Anything... (3/5) Movie CLIP - Boombox Serenade (1989) HD (youtube)
Peter Gabriel - In Your Eyes (youtube)
Donna Lewis - I Love You Always Forever (youtube)
Vanessa Williams - Save The Best For Last (youtube) "Sometimes the one thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see."

Love Quotes
Famous Love Songs
Romantic Lyrics
Friendship Songs
Happy Songs
Relationship Songs
Wedding Songs

"Though I have experienced Love at first sight many times and have floated in the air from a single kiss, I have learned over time to separate my dreams from reality, no matter how beautiful those moments were and how those memories still please me."

To Love is to have Knowledge

"You can list the things you like and don't like, but the bottom line is love, and a full understanding that people change and so do you. So the person you originally fell in love with will change. So does this mean that the things you loved about that person are gone? Or did you misunderstand the things you thought the person was? Or did you value things that you loved about that person incorrectly? Learning to love takes a long time, learning who to love takes even longer."

Being in a Intimate relationship, or being married, is not as important as all the other relationships that we have in life. The relationship that we have with ourselves, the relationships that we have with family and friends, and the relationship that we have with mother earth and the environment, are much more important and meaningful relationships then our Intimate ones.

We put too much pressure on ourselves, and so does society and the media. People believe that If they are not in love there must be something wrong with them, which is mostly false. All relationships require work and responsibility. And all relationships are equally important. Don't sacrifice one relationship for the other. And if you feel that you have not found love, just remember, love is created, not found. Looking for Love is misleading, you must create love, and the person who responds the most to the love that you have created, is someone to pay attention to, but don't expect intimacy, only embrace intimacy and love when it is genuine and true.


I love you

I would say I love you more often, but I'm not sure who you are? It's not that I don't love you, because I do love you. It's that when I say I love you to someone, I want them to be sure what part of them I love. I certainly don't love everything about you, but I also don't love everything about me either, because no one is perfect. So please remember that love is always there, but don't expect love to always be there for you, because love needs love too. And reaching out is the same as reaching in. For love to truly connect it must come from both sides, without any expectations or conditions. Love is Pure, and in order for love to flourish you must agree to be pure with love. Positive or Good Attracts Good, and Negative Repeals Positive or Good. That's one of the main reasons why Loving Yourself and Forgiving Yourself is important.

Pure is being in harmony and free of bad qualities.

Purist is one who desires that an item remain true to its essence and free from adulterating or diluting influences.

Good is having desirable or positive qualities especially those suitable for a thing specified. Morally admirable. Promoting or enhancing well-being. Agreeable or pleasing. Of Moral excellence or admirableness. Having or showing knowledge and skill and aptitude. Most suitable or right for a particular purpose. Resulting favorably. Capable of pleasing. Appealing to the mind. In excellent physical condition. Tending to promote physical well-being; beneficial to health. Generally admired. Beneficial.
That which is pleasing or valuable or useful. In a good or proper or satisfactory manner or to a high standard. The quality of doing what is right and avoiding what is wrong. A good friend.

Patience
Positive Thinking
Being Friendly

Nice
is the act of showing regard for others. Pleasant or pleasing or agreeable in nature or appearance. Socially or conventionally correct; refined or virtuous. Done with delicacy and skill. Exhibiting courtesy and politeness. A courteous manner that respects accepted social usage.

Thoughtful is the considerate of the feelings or well-being of others. Showing concern for the rights and feelings of others. Acting with or showing thought and good sense. Exhibiting or characterized by careful thought. Having intellectual depth.

Kind is having or showing a tender and considerate and helpful nature; used especially of persons and their behavior.
Tolerant and Forgiving under provocation.

This is way beyond the Law of Attraction, this is about being good because you know what being good is and you have learned how being good benefits others. This is not about being good so that other people like you, that's False Advertising, Misleading, Deceptive, Manipulative and Fake. True Love will never be found through coercion, force or pressure. And rejection is not about someone rejecting love, it's just not excepting the deliverer. So find another way to deliver your message of love or find someone else who can deliver this love. If you can't do either then put this refusal aside for another time when more information and knowledge is learned.

Fake is a person who makes deceitful pretenses. Fraudulent; having a misleading appearance. Not genuine or real; being an imitation of the genuine article. Something that is a counterfeit; not what it seems to be. Speak insincerely or without regard for facts or truths. Don't Play Games

Propaganda
Acting
Inaccurate

Pretenses is the act of giving a false appearance. Pretending with intention to deceive. A false or unsupportable quality.


"Love only needs each other, but it's not as simple as it sounds
. Though Love is natural, and though Love can be felt by anyone, young or old, and even though Love does not require any intelligence, Love does get better when you keep learning about yourself, and about others, and about the world around you. This is not to say that Love requires knowledge, but Love does come from knowledge, so knowledge requires Love. Are you Lovin this?"

Love is Knowledge, Love is Information


The Summer of Love never really ended, it just manifested itself in the generations that followed. This awakening made us aware of our problems, but we never learned how to truly solve them. So the next big wave will be The Summer of Learning, this will finally take us home. It took us a while, but we finally figured it out that improving education was the answer all along. Our intelligence is our greatest strength, but we have to learn how to effectively utilize our intelligence, and the only way to do that is to improve education so that intelligence is a guarantee, for everyone. Knowledge and information must flow like love did during the 60's. But this time, we'll have the wisdom and the maturity to see this through, and finally solve all the problems that have plagued us for way to long. The time has come, this is our time, Godspeed!


Jealousy

Not only is Jealousy bad for relationships, it is one of the main causes of violence in relationships. Jealousy provides no accuracy in a persons awareness, and it is a behavior that has no value.

Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of status or something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust.
Crime of Passion refers to a violent crime, especially homicide, in which the perpetrator commits the act against someone because of sudden strong impulse such as sudden rage rather than as a premeditated crime.

Envy occurs when a person lacks another's superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.

Unloved: Guilty of Love (youtube)

Jealousy is a defect in thinking with no logic what so ever. Jealousy is related to Insecurity, Paranoia and Delusional Thinking. You want to be aware of your love interest but you don't want to jump to conclusions or assume things that may not be true. This is not about trust, for trusting can be blind sometimes. This is about being aware and asking the right questions, questions that won't reveal insecurity, paranoia or delusional thinking. You want your questions to help you understand a persons behavior, as well as help you understand your own feelings. There's nothing cute or romantic about jealousy, it is a sign of ignorance, which means that you have some things to learn about yourself, as well as, some things to learn about what a Healthy Relationship is really about. 

Don't let obsessive love and Jealousy get the best of you, look on the Brightside, and focus on what's important.

Control Freak describes a person who attempts to dictate how everything is done around them. The phrase was first used in the 1970s, an era when stress was laid on the principle of 'doing one's own thing' and letting others do the same.
Aggression

The Killers - Mr. Brightside (youtube)

What the World Needs Now is Love Sweet Love






“Everything I know, I know because of love.”  Leo Tolstoy - War and Peace

The Kingdom of God Is Within You, abolish violence, even the defensive kind, and to give up revenge.



The Thinker Man